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Beliefs of how a man should behave, or how a woman should act in society are embedded in the cultural fabric and difficult to change.Tarana Burke, an activist from Harlem, explains her ordeal of meeting a young victim of ***ual harassment.I wanted this session to be over.’ I replied ‘It’s alright’. The one who amused children with his literary magic, was allegedly a paedophile.

The unequal power dynamics in my ordeal and the ***ual harassment victims/abuser could be that of superior/junior, teacher/student, parent/child or any such relations where one person has some kind of power over the other. However, she was hyperactive, had a high-pitched voice and anger-filled behaviour. It was father’s excited talk which gave me the idea that the poet that day was someone important. They may also suffer emotional trauma. Proverbs might differ in different regions, but many are in a similar vein: "A leaf falling on thorn or otherwise harms the leaf’ or the ubiquitous "Boys will be Boys"Others imply that ***ual harassment is permitted for men while women should keep quiet.Burke recalls, "Heaven, a sweet-faced little girl, kind of clung to me through the camp. I reluctantly conceded. That was the last day of my marking. The allegations against the poet did not stop there as several women narrated their own ordeal from him. I might have looked surprised, and he instantly apologised and said, ‘I hope you use these words in your country, please excuse. I couldn’t move, my neck burned; I sweated. I was frequently rescuing her from some situation or the other. The effects of gaslighting cause the gaslightee to experience self-doubt, diminished self-esteem, confusion, anxiety, depression, and can even provoke psychosis. A senior lecturer in invited me to his office to conduct marking.It was in the mid 1970s that ***ual harassment was recognised as a pervasive social problem. I was told about his increasing workload, how tired he was, and his words were ‘F**k, oh F**k’.‘It was my senior lecturer’I worked part-time at university, and taught graduate and postgraduate students.

As Wong found, these questions proved that in the Indian cultural context, ***ual harassment is sometimes permissive. I was horrified by her words, and I listened until I could not take it anymore. Her bonding with this young girl a decade ago in a youth camp hosted by Just Be Inc inspired her to start the heat transfer printing on fabricMeToo campaign. I was exhausted soon and fell asleep, when I woke up I found uncle lying next to me, his hand between my thighs, pressing me with his fingers. It also encompasses unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange of ***ual favours. Such arguments indicate that men see ***ual harassment as a privilege and treats women as ***ual objects.Much more to itClearly, ***ual harassment is more than mere physical advances, covering any unwelcome conduct like verbal remarks, ***ual comment or manipulation of situations to gain control and get ***ual favours offered as ‘gaslighting’."The narration shocked many. Moreover, society keeps reminding women from an early age the importance of shame, humility and more importantly keeping quiet.He sang a children’s poem, taught us to sing them and scolded us when we got it wrong. And I couldn’t even bring myself to whisper… me too. Social researcher Katherine Wong (2010) examines ***ual harassment around the globe to conclude that it involves intimidation, coercion or bullying of a ***ual nature. She had a deep sadness and a yearning for confession that I read immediately and wanted no part of. When I reached the office he wanted a hug. Smelling of alcohol, the grey-haired man’s eyes grew small when he smiled. Since father wrote poems, several poets used to visit us. Uncle loved children, used to write, recite and teach poems to children. I said ‘Can we please begin marking?’ He apologised and then as we continued working, the remarks came again. It was all over soon as uncle said, but I can still feel the burn even as I am writing this. Finally, she almost begged me to listen.(The writer is a research scholar in Gender and organisational Culture at the University of York, England). My voice was frozen, when I tried to move away he affectionately told me ‘it will be over soon, soon’.Cultural FactorsIn the case of the poet, some remarked that he was entitled to be a little naughty, as his poems mattered, not his character.Power, a key issue  Power is argued as being # a ‘key issue in ***ual harassment’ in several studies. Recently, a young girl from South India wrote of her childhood abuse by a famous poet:‘Poet uncle molested me’"I was ten when father told us uncle is coming home to visit us. I was shocked, terrified and never dared to go back to the department if he was around.

Then he continued to ask me to say the word, his words were ‘can you say it, let me hear, say ‘F**k’ I like to hear it’. When it grew dark, he came to the house with father."Though initially launched to aid ***ually abused underprivileged women of colour, the #MeToo movement soon gained popularity across the globe.Through discourse and history women are equated with suffering, pain and patience. My work included marking assignments. For the next several minutes this child struggled to tell me about her "step-daddy" or rather her mother’s boyfriend who was doing all sorts of monstrous things to her developing body.I watched her walk away as she tried to recapture her secrets and tuck them back into her young mind, put on her mask and go back into the world like she was all alone. The next day I dreaded the idea of going there but had to as I had a contract.